A recurring theme in Family Constellations revolves around the “parental script.” If parents experienced an unhappy, conflict-ridden marriage marked by betrayals or emotional disconnection, these patterns can unconsciously become the script we carry forward into our own relationships. For instance, an individual might attract partners who recreate the conflicts witnessed between their parents, or they may struggle to commit to a stable relationship, hindered by feelings of fear or mistrust toward love. In this way, the parental script becomes an “unconscious model” that influences our emotional choices.
Another significant aspect concerns the suffering experienced within the family due to unhappy marriages or problematic relationships among its members. If the family history includes significant hardships—such as difficult separations, infidelity, or misunderstandings—these painful experiences can shape beliefs about love and partnerships, such as the fear that relationships inevitably bring suffering or the sense of inadequacy in building a happy family. Even though these sufferings belong to previous generations, they can create invisible blocks that affect our current romantic lives.
Through Family Constellations, it is possible to explore and “stage” these dynamics to become aware of the unconscious conditioning that influences us. The process helps identify hidden family identities and dissolve the connection to the parental script, allowing the individual to create space for authentic relationships free from the burdens of the past. Breaking free from these blocks means honoring one’s family system without perpetuating the sufferings endured, thus paving the way for love and partnership based on free and conscious choices. This approach empowers individuals to move beyond inherited patterns and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.